Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing - Matthew Perry

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

By Matthew Perry

  • Release Date: 2022-11-01
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Score: 4
From 1,268 Ratings



The BELOVED STAR OF FRIENDS takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this “CANDID, DARKLY FUNNY...POIGNANT” memoir (The New York Times)

A MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK by Time, Associated Press, Goodreads, USA Today, and more!

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the book fans have been waiting for.


  • Make it half as long…

    By feedtheswede
    I love to get in insight in what Matt went through and what his life has looked like. After the thirteenth time he talks about relapsing- this book could have been half as long and made magical. Instead I find myself just scimming through the last 25% of the book
  • Wow…Surprising

    By Virtuslgem
    I didn’t quite know what to expect from him. I knew there would be jokes, but this was so much more. He bares his soul in this exciting and heartfelt romp. His crazy journey of living life on a rollercoaster with no brakes is thrilling and heartbreaking at the same time. He writes as well as he acts, full of surprises all the way. Don’t miss this epic tale of life on the edge as a superstar where anything can happen and does!
  • Life love and the Big Terrible thing

    By Best thing 2022
    Authentic and heartfelt, raw account of addiction…. A must read for anyone facing addiction or who has walked this road with a loved one! Thank you for allowing us to explore this with you!
  • Excellent!

    By BJaxlyn
    Quick read but very interesting.
  • Worth Reading But Somewhat Cringeworthy

    By M_Lubo
    While this book does a good job conveying the deep suffering and confusion in addiction, Mr. Perry projects almost no sense of humility and acknowledgement of the degree to which his many chances in life have been due to simple privilege.
  • Excellent

    Honest and real journey through the struggle of addiction, even for the guy that has it all. Great read.
  • Been there

    By Dsweet1
    From one addict to another, thank you Matty!!! This book is an easy read for addicts & I’m sure could be a hard read for those who are not. The truths he bares are ones that speak for a generation of addicts trying to survive in the age of “honey” in pill form. I am grateful for my angel, aka, my wife, the one who gave me my second chance. Is it ironic that my 15 year old daughter’s favorite show is Friends? One day I’ll explain to her how her dad & Chandler had something in common other than their sense of humor. Great book with a choppy flow that encapsulates an addicts mindset. “Could this book “be” any better??
  • Amazing story, great read

    By krystalshine
    Addiction and it’s personal consequences, amazing actor!!
  • When Addiction is Your Oldest Friend

    By Richard Bakare
    Wow, just wow. From the first line to the last this one, this memoir is explosive. Matthew Perry holds nothing back and spares no one in this very revealing reflection on his life. You can only wonder how many bridges were or will be burned from this tell all. Outside of the scandalous moments, this one is short, candid, and feels like you are on the therapist coach with him. You sit back and watch as Perry searches for some philosophical enlightenment all his own. At other times it is like reading tabloid story while waiting in the supermarket line. There are gems and the most insightful one is when he shares his therapist’s guidance that “reality is an acquired taste.” An observation he returns to and expounds upon throughout the book. That insight seems universal and especially fitting for the times we live in. When we can escape so easily through devices and echo chambers; addictions of a different sort.
  • Amazing book!

    By Deli_m
    I have always loved Matthew Perry, Chandler is my favorite character ever and he has brought so much joy to my life!! I absolutely loved learning about his life and struggles with addiction. He is helping so many people over come their own addiction issues (me included) and that’s so amazing! I hope he knows how much people love and care for him.