Boundaries - Henry Cloud & John Townsend


By Henry Cloud & John Townsend

  • Release Date: 2008-09-09
  • Genre: Christianity
Score: 4.5
From 365 Ratings


Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.


  • Informative

    By assingear
    Boundary issues have been a huge issue for me in my life and I found this book to be a good read on the subject. While I'm not used to reading books that center Christian principles, I did find the biblical references interesting and the overall content on what boundaries are, how they work and how to develop them helpful. The hardest part for me is going to be figuring out how to find a support group, which the authors say is key to success.
  • It turned my life around

    By madskilllz16
    Brilliantly written, the facade of trying to be everything for everyone dissipates when you establish real and tangible boundaries with others, and especially yourself. Thank you for writing this book, it speaks to me on so many levels.
  • Glad I am reading this

    By Gracefullyfifi
    I always had boundary issues ,scaring away men,family and friends.In other aspects it helped me to see myself in a whole new light and helping me to choose wisely ,I’m still reading it and have the study guide .I notice when I don’t study I get upside down .Thank you guys for a Christian point of view and for those who may not believe God exists ,he does.
  • Awesome!

    By Tatty0071
    Great Material to Grown in Healthy Relationships.
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  • Great book but...

    By Kreck7325
    Great book! But if you purchased the hard copy of the work book you will find it extremely hard to follow the book and switch over the the workbook. Specially if you only do a few pages of the workbook a day. The pages they ask you to refer back to aren't correct if you downloaded the book. Page 5 in paperback could be page 17 on your iTunes download.
  • The importance of Boundaries

    By Redeemed Valor
    Relevant, required reading for all. Period
  • Great book

    By raghu nandan bandavaram
    It's really a great book. It helped me to understand differences between many things that I personally struggled with like forgiveness and reconciliation, boundaries in friendships, differences between loving and obligations and many other things. It would definitely help anyone who feels that people are taking advantage of me or people are abusing me etc... This book also helps us to grow in taking responsibility of God given roles to us in different aspects of life and also helps us from not having guilt or condemnation for those things that are not under our responsibility. Overall it's a great book, it personally helped me in many ways. Thanks to God and thanks to the authors also... 👍
  • Amazing

    By Avatar7.5
    For years I have debated (internally) how psychology and Faith can co-exist so extensively in a topic/conversation/application and not just scratch the surface. I have purchased the paperback of this awesome book. Much thanks to the authors for their continuous efforts!! I know many others whom have read this, and would agree! Life changing, if you apply.
  • Boundaries

    By Boundaries are Blessings
    I wished I had known of this book in 1992 and had read it then! It was referred to in an article in the Catholic Digest this spring--thank you, Catholic Digest! I think it is basic living skills information for everyone who had a less than perfect childhood environment. Thank you for writing it in such an understandable way--with great relationship examples and good Scripture references.